अमेरिकाबाट बिहे गर्न नेपाल गयको केटाले केटीले योग्यता ढाटेको भनी बिहे गर्दिन भन्दा कुटाइ खाइ ५ लाख जरिवाना तिर्नुपरेछ । अब यस्मा दोसी को?

definitely, getting engaged and letter cancelling the marriage can have negative impact on the girl's image. but in my understanding from different news sources the culprit is the girl's side itself. because if they did not lie about the girl's education (she lied that she passed the first and second years bachelor's degree, but after the engagement she called the guy's family that she failed in those years), there would not probably be any engagement, and obviously there would be no cancellation of the marriage (if there is no hidden motive, if any, of the guy opting for cancelling the marriage) before wedding, and hence the guy would not be beaten up and would not have to pay Rs. 5 lakhs. i think the guy needs justice.

You are right ctal. The girl's side ultimately seems so satisfied with "5 lakhs" they looted from the guy (see photo from mysansar .com.  Girl's side was just after money. Its unfortunate that the guy got beaten but fortunate that he will not anymore be related to that family. Indeed this guy needs justice.

जो चोर् उसैको ठुलो स्वर - नेपाली उखान त्यसइ बनेको होइन।

New Nepal, what a shame

what the hell these peopel do with that 500,0000 rupees? 

girl made a big mistake and i don't know what she gonna do. who's gonna marry her ..................

kta ho kt ko pic ta hernu paryooo ni.....ma ni bihee garnaa jaadai chu...feri tyai kt parla!!!!!

i dun think anybody has  to blame cuz both could work out lit bit if they like each other and really were looking for some +ve solution.For me it sounds like by the time guy was getting engaged, this s the only conversation that took place between them.

GURL:>> i passed my 1st n 2nd year....and runnin 3rd year now....will you marry me?

GUY:>>ohh really? you passed ?? thats kool  i guess....awesome....i am ready to marry wid you honey...lol

 

Girl - and I failed...

 

Guy -- too bad... for you and me =)

I have had a similar incident in my neighbourhood.

One deaf and dumb son of a rich manwas engaged with a lady from out of valley. The lady knew his disabilities. The guy is one of the most respected in his circle as he is a teacher of sign language and is really good looking. The guys family knew very few about the gal. As they were happy that a normal gal agreed to marry their disabled son. But a week after the engagement, the family heard the gal was a highway prostitute. They tried to find the reality. And what they heard was the truth.

They wanted to terminate the wedding. There was a big dispute among two sides. The gals side was very filthy people to deal with, as I saw them swearing publicly. It was hard for the guys family to handle that. Finally they paid a ransom of 1 Lakh and terminated the wedding.
I still feel bad for that nice family and the deaf/dumb gentleman, who I respect as well.

खै मेरो आँखा फुट्या हो कि, साथीहरु अली बढी अमेरिकनाइज्ड भाहो, तर मेरो बिचरामा हाम्रो नेपालाँ एकपटक टिकाटाला लाइसकेपछी बिहे जस्तो कुरोलाई ख्यालख्यालमा फेरी गर्दिन भन्न पाइन्न। केटीको साइडका मान्छेले दुनियाँलाई "ल हाम्री छोरीको लालप्रसाद संग बिहे हुनी भो" भन्दै हिंडे होलान, अब फेरी केटा खोज्न हिंड्न सजिलो नि हुँदैन। केटोले पत्रकारलाई केटीले "ढाँटी" भनेपनी हामीलाई ठ्याक्क के भाको भन्ने कुरो थाहा छैन। अनी "ढाँट्ने" भन्ने कुरो नि सबैले सबैलाई ढाँट्छन। राम्रो कुरो हैन ढाँट्नु, तर नेपालाँ बिहे गर्दा "ढाँट्ने" चलन साधारण नै हो, त्यसैले राम्ररी खोजिनिती गर्नु पर्छ टिकाटालो गर्नु अगाडि भन्छन। म आँफै पनि कुनै केटी मन परेर बिहे गर्छु भन्ने भैसकेपछी फेरी 'लौ, ब्याक लाग्या रैछ ' भन्दैमा नाईँ भन्छु होला जस्तो लाग्दैन। मन नपरी बिहे गरिदैन, मनपरेपछी त्यस्तो सानो कुरो मा दंगाफसाद गरिदैन।

केटीको पक्षले पिटपाट नगरेको भए हुने हो, तर केटाले पनि बिहे जस्तो कुरोलाई त्यस्तो ख्यालख्याल लिन नहुने हो। घरमा छोरी भएको परिवारलाई थाहा हुन्छ, एकपटक बिहे गर्ने भनेर टिकाटालो गरेको छोरी फेरी बिहे गराउन कती गार्‍हो हुन्छ भनेर।

pire ko kura saarhai manasib ho.

Pire express the social reality. Great your vision.

Thanks

I do not agree with Pire.
Why should someone accept someones lies? If I was lied by someone, I wont go ahead to get married with taht person and spend my life. I do not think that will work. I wont think of others life, I will think of my life first. How can a relation that starts from lies go ahead and go well too? Telling lies before wedding is one of the main reason of arrange marriage not being unsuccessful. It happens so frequently in our society.

I have full understanding of our social concept but one have to act wisely to not to be in problem. If you have any fault, you should  tell it. If both parties agree than it will go ahead if not it wont. Its very simple. But I understand the problem of being rejected by many possible candidates too. Common, you have to be good  enough to get any job, than why dont you have to be good enough to be life partner of someone?

So telling lies to make up wedding is not a good practice at all, for whatever the reason.

Just liek Pire had said who knows why guy changed his mind? May be he found someone better...?? Marriage is not like shopping in the mall. You get engaged and go out and tell everyone you are gettign married and then after sometime you get bored and think I don't want her. I think this other one is much better...It is not like buyign in stores. In Nepal people go with the flow of society...I knwo sometimes guys side can think they can do whatever they want. I am sure in this issue there are other factors involved or who will go on beating people like such...I agree with pire 100%. When you agree to marry someone you have to check record before clicking OK.!

छोरी लाई हेला गरेर धेरै जन्माइएन । अहिले पो पछुतो  लाग्यो । लौ हेर
भटा  भट् अम्रिकाने केटा हरु बोलाउदै छोरी  योग्यता ठग्दै केटा  लाई भकुर्दै ५-५ लख लेको भये । आह यो बुडो हाड किन घोत्नु पर्थ्यो? फुटेको खप्पर मा पहिले बुद्धी आएन अब पिर मानेर के पो गर्नु । अब त्यो पोइसो लिने सँग नाता गोता केलौन जान पर्ला । पार्टी खुवाउछ कि खै ? मङ्सिरा बेला गाम को सप्पै लाई पार्टी खुवाउने पोइसो ग्वाम्म ब्यान्क मा राख्यो होला के खुवौथ्यो बजिया ले 

talai muji budo feri yaha aayera halla garcaha!!!Teri chori ko ni testai kahani malai thaha chaina?? terima budo!! pakh talai,malai chindaina bhanthane holas??

Pire and Haribansha,

the guy has said that the girl later (after engagement) called the guy's family and told that she had not passede the first and second years examinations of bachelor study. Even if there is some hidden reason for the guy to discard the girl, this statement must be true since the girl's side has not yet defended that they did not lie about her education.

then the education of the girl itself or or lying about it is not a simple issue that can be compromised or tolerated at least for a guy who is living or studying in the US or wherever and dreaming of having an educated family. If the girl did not pass the first and second years exams, then she is not a good girl in education who would straightly pass the third year exam and there is no guarantee that she would pass the first and second years in the next time and join her husband in the US soon. The guy might have planned that he would bring his wife to US after she would appear third year's exam within 4-5 months. But the woman he was engaged with is unlikely to pass third years exam and he had to wait longer, maybe even 3-4 years if she would pass her all the exams and join him in the US as there is no chance that she would be going back to Nepal every year to write the exams. This means the guy would be marrying just a woman with +2 equivalent. Next, where does Rs 5 lakhs come from for an average person living in the US? Is is so easy for one in the US to make that much money?

Here, the problem is 1) education, and even bigger problem is 2) lying attitude. Can you tolerate a person whom you knew made you fool by lying about something? Do you think your life can go easily with a woman like her who dares to lie and cheat you about one or more things?  

What an unjust and unfortunate decision of a society to beat up and further charge 5 lakhs to the guy while he seems to be innocent?????????

चौटा खान गएको बुदी झोलमा दुबी मरी ! (for the guy)

Hoina yo Lal prasad Kafle ta TU ma Pultis gartho"Nepal Bidhtyarthi sangh" babaal keti hallaune manche ho yar ,kasari Yo fanda ma paro ha??? Yeso diye ko pabni hunu parcha , malai sanka layo hai!!

लालु सँगइ सिकागोमा बस्नेको भनाइ अनुसार टिकाटालो गरेपस्चात केटीलाई ठ्याक लगाथ्यो रे अनी बिहे गर्दिन भनेकोले त्यो ठ्याक हानेको पैसा असुल गर्या रे। कत्ती महँगो ठ्याक हान्यो लालुले ।